Success is personal in both how we measure it and our experience (feel) of it. When we master what we’ve set out to achieve, and hopefully it is something we are passionate about, we feel happy, fulfilled and successful. I would like to add that when we achieve success the world also becomes a better place. So the root of success really is that we matter; what we think, what we do and how we do it impacts everything. There is a ripple effect.
Success can certainly be achieved in many areas. In North America we have an inordinate focus on business and financial success, or riches. There are so many other realms of success; such as success in ones’ spirituality, relationships, intimacy, family, our physical and mental health, our vitality & fitness, our community and success in being good custodians of the environment.
How success looks is relative. It may be a baby step or a grand accomplishment. For example success for a paraplegic may be in navigating from point “A” to point “B” safely. Success for many parents is raising a healthy child with good self-esteem.
Success in my experience seldom occurs in a straight line. More often than not, success is filled with challenges, setbacks, detours, and roadblocks that we must overcome. We get back up, hopefully learn from the event, gain new feedback, and move forward. All of these things make the journey fascinating, often entertaining and rewarding.
There is a tendency for some to look at what they don’t have rather than what they do have. Being grateful for what we do have puts us in the place of receptivity. Receptivity, an openness of mind combined with focus on what you do want, leads to more rapid success.
Take a moment to write down 50 to 100 successes – big and small – that you have accomplished through your life. This may be personal achievements or something you’ve accomplished for someone else. Draw them from every area of your life – when small, as a teen, a young adult, and up to today. Take yourself back to that moment when you accomplished something. You might not think of it being big now, but it was a big deal then. For example, it was a big deal for me when I finally rode a bicycle, tied my shoelaces, got my driver’s license, passed my board examinations, etc.
The point of this exercise is for you to recognize that you are already successful. I guess technically we’re all successful from a numbers game at conception. That particular sperm made it into the egg for fertilization and making you. That one sperm beat out millions of others. You are the successful event of that!
By focusing on our successes we stimulate the feel-good chemicals and neural networks that believe it or not, help lead us to more success.