What do you talk about with passion and energy? Think about your focus on the positive or negative. Have you ever caught yourself talking about something you don’t like with such passion, you become emotionally engaged in it?
I’m getting better at catching myself earlier in the process. Yes, I do it, too!!
Catching myself talking about something I don’t like doesn’t make me feel good in any way. Not only am I impacting the thoughts and emotions in myself, I’m also activating the negative thoughts and emotions of those around me in that same energy.
Verbalizing what I don’t like rarely moves me in the direction of what I want. When I hear others speaking about problems, what’s becoming clearer to me is that we diminish our ability to see effective solutions.
So, how can we recognize, facilitate or accomplish a solution when only speaking about problems? How does speaking about what we don’t like going to change things into what we do like?
Turn the conversation around and talk about solutions. What would you like to see? How can this experience serve as a life lesson? What good is going on that you can focus on and expand from?
If it’s gossip, can we stop? Yes, just stop! Turn it off or turn the channel. Change the subject. Or walk away.
Purposely move conversations towards topics that inspire you to come up with solutions. What we focus on grows. Even the tough topics can be turned around from being a problem and into what can we learn and do as an inspired response.