I love being busy. Like really busy. So busy that every moment of each day is brimming with fullness. But is this really a good thing? I had a number of wake-up calls over the past number of years, but wasn’t listening. Accidents, friends shaking their heads at my schedule, being impatient with myself and others. I created unrealistic expectations of what I could accomplish, sleeping less to accomplish it, and it was never enough. I felt under [self-imposed] pressure to be and do more. I was running everywhere, not prioritizing down time… Sound familiar?
I was reminded of this again of this recently, when I heard my husband Barry mention to not run the boat engine at full speed all the time. Pilots know this with their planes. We inherently know running anything on full, all the time, is likely to cause a breakdown or at least wear and tear. So it is with us. A sprinter can only sprint for so long at full power before something gives. Weird isn’t it, since I remind clients to tune in all the time.
Okay, first lesson: Live congruently by practicing what you ask others to do. Many doctors, speakers, trainers and coaches do not. I couldn’t see I had become one of them. It took a big accident in 2009, knocking me off my feet – literally – to interrupt my pattern.
Lesson two: Live in accordance with our genetics. What is this all about? Simply, we need to live with what the ideal of the species needs to thrive – not survive. This means looking at the patterns of our thoughts, images and behaviours we accumulate. If we feel pressure or stress, what is our life telling us? Should we stop, take stock of and face something? Are these habits really serving us or are they acting as a distraction? What does the ideal genetic expression need as fuel? Is it really more caffeine or processed flour? How about activity? Are we designed to sit on our behinds for the extended time that we do? Are we designed to be more active (motion/stretching/strengthening/breathing) for the ideal expression? What do our relationships need? Is it really more “stuff”? Most importantly – what does spirit need? Mine was prioritized time to experience self. Slow down to see the overall picture, the big picture – in other words, slow down to see more.
Lesson three: Make the time to experience self. Each day what time do you have carved out to connect to you? This is when you give meaning and depth to your life. Where you celebrate the day – the one or many things you’ve accomplished. So I have slowed down and I actually am seeing more in my life. I break throughout my day. I spend more quality time with my closest friends and husband. I tune in and ask my body what it needs today. I’m in nature more, I meditate, do Qigong, visualize and affirm what I want. I’ve regained the subtleties of life – enjoying the moment. Relishing and celebrating people, places and things. Enjoying being present. Stopping – well truthfully it’s reducing my mind chatter.
I’ve also returned to painting pastels and piano – both creative endeavors which allow my spirit to express what I feel. I am in a mastermind which holds me accountable to living and feeling life not just doing life. Ultimately you know what YOU need to do to create the Best Version of You. Do you need a coach to help you through? Make the time and do it now. Tomorrow never comes. What are you missing if you don’t slow down. I want to know…