Our view colours how we see the world. For example we may see it as never having enough or as truly abundant. The picture we’ve painted of the world is like a pair of glasses – it frames, colors and shapes what we see, how we see it, how we go about doing things in it, and whether we enjoy it. Naturally, how we go about creating and expressing success is going to vary depending on our perspective.
Looking at perspective and success, client “A” views the world very differently than me. His view is as a win-lose proposition. He sees success at the expense of others and is very protective of it. He’s hierarchal, and power oriented. He has a need to be the top dog, one that dictates what the pack dogs below him do, and he’s got to keep those dogs below him. He’ll often say, “It’s my way or the highway.”
He’s control oriented and his focus is always on staying on top. A lot of energy is expended. Success for him is in what he gets, accumulates, and how he maintains what he’s got, as he fears someone else will take it from him. He’s not really enjoying the success he’s gained because he’s constantly looking over his shoulder. He came to me because he is seeing the limitations of his behavior and wants change.
This really differs from Client “B”, another executive who sees the universe benevolently. She sees it as abundant and success to her is when everyone wins. She empowers others to be and do their best. She surrounds herself with great people and they do not threaten her, even though they may know more than she does in their particular area. She actually encourages that. She really looks for answers from within her organization.
Success to her is in getting ahead cooperatively as a team, achieved as an inspired, caring leader where the team wins. Her view of success is win-win. The “Art” of success to her is far more viable in her energy use.
From a North American perspective these are both very successful people but use very different practices to gain their end result.
Do you see yourself in either example?