When we complain is our focus on what we want? Heck no! When we complain, our focus is on what we’d like to experience in a different way, but are not willing to take responsibility to make that experience happen.
When we complain we stop receiving what it is we want. We justify, rationalize, and blame which changes nothing. Plus it lowers our vibration into “what’s wrong” rather than taking responsibility for our thoughts and feelings about it. When we take responsibility we benefit by experiencing a higher vibration feeling and response.
Complaining doesn’t change a thing. It’s dead air and holds us in the place of not getting what we ask for. It also makes me think that we get even more of the negativity we’re focused on.
Really, does complaining positively motivate anyone to find a solution? I usually experience an episode of eye-rolling myself.
Try this – take your top complaints. What 3 steps can you take with each complaint to move you in the direction you want? What thought can you change? How can you alter how you feel about it? Is it really a problem or an inconvenience? Most importantly, what action can you take towards a solution you’d rather experience?
If something is beyond your control, take a deep breath in and out for 5 seconds then go inward for direction on how can you re-frame your response and change it to a better thought.
For example, I cannot change a flight that has been cancelled due to a snow storm so there is no need in stressing myself for something I am unable to control. My thoughts are better served by letting the people who are expecting me know of my situation and if I can find another means of safe transportation. That’s a better use of my time, energy and focus. And, if I can’t find the means for safe transportation then I’ve also booked myself into a hotel as a secondary back-up.