For many years, especially pre-internet, in retrospect my own progress was slowed somewhat by not asking for help. That's self-judgement to be sure and life unfolds no matter what. However, if I can shed some light to help others facilitate themselves more efficiently, then I figure that's a good thing to share. When I got stuck and didn’t ask for help it was because when I did, I felt others would see me as not being smart or needy. Whether real or imagined, it was important for me to be independent, look smart, not make mistakes-ever (which of course I have). Now I know I am very capable … [Read more...]
Is Your Train Pulling Out of the Station
Are you waiting for the perfect conditions to start something you've always dreamed of doing? Perhaps you're waiting for the ideal job, or the right conditions to take that special trip? Perhaps it’s saying something to an elderly loved one? Your train is pulling out of the station. Your life is moving along and is subject to finite natural laws. Once time has passed we are unable to retrieve it. For us, in this life, once it is gone…it is gone forever. So have that conversation with someone special to let them know how they've impacted you. It’s too late once they’ve passed. Make the job … [Read more...]
Resetting Expectations
Yes, there are times when we need to look hard at where we are versus where we thought we'd be. When I had a significant knee injury as well as an issue with my opposite foot, I was out of practice for awhile as I worked on healing from my surgeries. This was really frustrating for me as an active person who somewhat defines myself through contribution and loves what I do. I was angry, upset and feeling a loss of control. Everything changed, but not in the way I had envisioned. I was not proud of how I handled a number of situations but those who knew me, knew my actions came from my … [Read more...]