Have you ever been so focused on an expectation about how something should happen in your life, only to realize later that it did but in a different way than you anticipated? I have often been caught up in "how" I want my desires to show up, which can leave me blind to results outside that "how". I realize when I keep my consciousness flexible and malleable, results shows up in unexpected ways and many times in an "even better" form. If you're similar perhaps this will help. What I've learned: Drop preconceptions about how it must show up, and just know that at least the next guidepost will … [Read more...]
What’s a Good Day Look Like?
Better yet, what's a great day look like? "It is an awesome thing to comprehend that what a human being dreams and imagines can be realized"~ Vanna Bonta A good metaphor for a creating a great day is a creating a great harvest. Reaping the fruits of a fully grown plant first begins with planting a seed. This seed has requirements to develop into a fully mature plant. In creating a good or great day, we first plant our intention, then awareness on what we desire. Intention is the initial thought of what it is you want. It's the seed. Attention is placing an uncompromising conscious flow of … [Read more...]
Successful Living, Successful Marriage
It’s interesting how things come about. Successful Living, Successful Marriage is the title of a new ebook I am involved with, compiled by my dear friend Jose Gomez MD. To get your FREE copy of the book, use this link Successful Living, Successful Marriage ebook. The question he asked me to write about was: “What are the best suggestions that you can recommend to married couples to create a happy marriage?” I immediately knew I could speak about this since I’ve been in a fulfilling, happy marriage and relationship since the 1980’s which continues to develop, grow, excite, and expand. My … [Read more...]
What Do You Talk About?
What do you talk about with passion and energy? Think about your focus on the positive or negative. Have you ever caught yourself talking about something you don’t like with such passion, you become emotionally engaged in it? I'm getting better at catching myself earlier in the process. Yes, I do it, too!! Catching myself talking about something I don’t like doesn't make me feel good in any way. Not only am I impacting the thoughts and emotions in myself, I'm also activating the negative thoughts and emotions of those around me in that same energy. Verbalizing what I don't like rarely … [Read more...]
Creating Happiness
A couple of months ago I posted a thought on my Twitter feed about spreading happiness. It went like this: "Want to create more happiness? Think of what makes you happy, then smile while around people. Doesn't even need to be at someone." The idea centers on the idea that when we think of something that makes us happy, it places us in an energy rich environment. When we’re in an energy rich environment, things change. I like to visualize it like being in a higher orbit. When we are up high, we can see more of what’s around and below us. Our perspective changes. Being able to see “more” … [Read more...]
Do You Need Fixing?
Unlike Humpty-Dumpty we don't break. Well, I guess we do when we fall off a wall that’s high enough. Recently, in my discussions with other coaches, the concept of people who need "fixing" came up. I offered a different opinion in that people aren’t broken. If we see ourselves as in need of fixing, most often it’s in comparison to someone or something else which is external to us. As one of my clients put it, "When I do not measure up, something must be wrong with me." If we see ourselves as broken, we only see the faults. I am not sure how seeing faults can move anyone into an energy rich … [Read more...]
More Like My Dog
Whoever said "It's a dog's life" doesn't know my dog. It gets me wondering though. What if we could be more like our dogs? For me it would be more like my Labrador "Ridley" who is now 12. Here's what a day in the life of my dog would be like for us... Life is filled with wanting to please no matter what. Always happy to see everyone any time of the day (Ridley’s the type of dog that wags his tail even while he's dreaming). Two square meals daily prepared from scratch (we’ve refined his biologically active raw food recipe). Being a healthy weight and loving activity (except on cold … [Read more...]
Complaining
When we complain is our focus on what we want? Heck no! When we complain, our focus is on what we’d like to experience in a different way, but are not willing to take responsibility to make that experience happen. When we complain we stop receiving what it is we want. We justify, rationalize, and blame which changes nothing. Plus it lowers our vibration into “what’s wrong” rather than taking responsibility for our thoughts and feelings about it. When we take responsibility we benefit by experiencing a higher vibration feeling and response. The cold hard truth is that more often than not we … [Read more...]
Impact of Others on Us
What impact do others have on you? Is that a good thing for you? Others might not really get you - what makes you tick - and inadvertently bring their own limited beliefs forward as well-meant opinions, especially from friends or family. The time we are living in, promotes everyone to have an opinion – even when they do not know the person or the subject matter. I ask that you stop looking outside yourself for validation. Ultimately, when you tune-in, you know the answers. Start paying attention to how you feel when going through your life, playing your own game. You will constantly be … [Read more...]
The Towel Lesson
In last week's blog I talked about doing it once and ended with “This process of completions reminded me in asking others to do the same, especially if they are using something of yours." I am reminded of kids' rooms - especially some teens. I do remember coming into a bedroom of a teen and backing out. I wasn’t even going to clean it. There was no floor space to clean anything. It was disgusting. We had a conversation but there was that independent defiance of the teenager “thing” going on. I believe teens can have autonomy over their room, but if there is no floor to clean, I won’t be doing … [Read more...]