Speaking, nearly the past 8 weekends have taken me from Las Vegas NV, Daytona Beach FL, Toronto ON, Melbourne AU, Tasmania, Boston MA, St. Louis Mo, and to Dallas TX. Enjoying sunsets from both the northern and southern hemisphere has been one of many delights. One of the things I love the most about travelling is seeing new places and meeting different people. Not only am I inspired by it, I learn so much. I see sunsets from different locations and perspectives, but it is always the same sun. The glorious sunsets are seen with perfect timing and the greatest colours do not always occur when … [Read more...]
Lean into Happiness
Get happy now. Be happy now. Practice happy now. In the previous three blogs we've covered how we can program out thoughts yet those underlying (subconscious) limiting beliefs may compete and undermine our success. Those underlying pieces are pivotal for breakthrough or else it is like pushing a rock uphill. You might be able to accomplish it but with a lot of hard work. Why not then lean into it. Try on 'being happy'!! Do some coaching or attend the Steps to Happiness evening to explore breaking through those beliefs. We know that 90% of happiness is under our control. If you change one … [Read more...]
Eight Steps Towards Happiness
"Happiness and fulfillment come less from material wealth and more from relationships; less from focusing on ourselves and more from helping others; less from external factors outside our control and more from the way in which we choose to react to what happens to us" We know from research that 90% of happiness comes from our intentional action (thoughts, responses, feelings, and actions), that are under our control. If you’re not ‘there’ meaning "happy," what steps can you take to get you "there"? It’s not about what someone else can do for you; it IS about what you can do for you. Top of … [Read more...]
I’d only be happy if…
If what? What came to mind? If you answered with anything that resembled what someone else should do (change, be nicer, give me more of something) or if you found yourself blaming someone else for your lack of happiness or what you need from the material realm (unless you’re speaking of basic food and shelter) or thinking about happier times in the past, you need to read on and attend the Steps to Happiness: As easy as 1-2-3 teleconference workshop on June 25th. Please interrupt this pattern of thought. Yes, the thought you hear yourself saying: "If only I had (more money, more time, less … [Read more...]
A moment of Alice in Wonderland
I was attending a spiritual retreat last week on an island and one exercise we were asked to do was to bring a special stone that had one pointy end. We threw the stone and were to follow the direction of the point when it landed. So off I went. “Begin at the beginning,” the King said, very gravely, “and go till you come to the end: then stop.” 1 I felt like Alice heading down a rabbit hole. I was led in a direction to a place where everything seemed out of place. A path of moss along a tree... A stone held in the air by an uprooted tree... A broken down cottage roof, a chair with no seat. All … [Read more...]
How’s your Happiness?
Happiness is an internal state of joy and contentment, that feeling that life is good. I am not speaking of infatuation or that excited state that we can crash from. Click here and watch this video clip as I talk about happiness and what truly makes us happy. Around 90% of our happiness is dependent on us. Research shows that only 10% of happiness is dependent on life circumstances (your age, social status, location). Of this 90%, it is reported that 40% of our happiness relates to our intentions and actions (which we can control) and 50% is determined by our genetic set point. Hold on, we … [Read more...]
Change Your Response
What does E+R=O mean? Coined by psychotherapist Robert Resnick, E= event, R= response and O=outcome. Simply, by choosing our response to any event we can change the outcome. Can you change something that has happened in the past? If you do not like the outcome you are currently receiving, then the onus is on you to change how you are responding to it. Responding of course means how you've interpreted the particular "event", in other words, your "thoughts" or "images" or your "behavior" in response to it. All of which are a choice we make. Consider when driving, another motorist blares his … [Read more...]
How We Live Is a Reflection of… (Part II)
Note: If you missed part one of this blog post, click here. How do we do this? I know from experience that building self-esteem comes first—believing in yourself and honoring yourself, and leading yourself first then honoring and leading others. Spending quality time with yourself is a frightening endeavor for many. It's uncomfortable, different, and new. When you look in the mirror do you love what you see? A question I ask myself in the morning is, "Am I bringing the Best Version of Me to the day?" At the end of the day, when I ask the same question, sometimes the answer is no. Those are … [Read more...]
How We Live Is A Reflection of… (Part I)
How we live our life is a reflection of our choices. We all have the power to choose or change the choices that impact our personal and business relationships. How we interpret and respond to our inner and then outer world shows up in all our relationships. So our external life is actually a reflection of our inner world. If you can accept that you are more creative, capable, and resourceful than you currently give yourself credit for, you can take charge and master life and business relationships. So, what prevents us from doing this? Not seeing our capabilities, strengths, and past … [Read more...]
Good to Great, Better to Best: Wheel of Life
Rank yourself in the following areas (from 0-10, whereas 0/10 is unmentionable and 10/10 is whoa! Man-I'm-good, masterful and have no room for improvement) i) Your overall happiness and contentment with life? 0-10 ii) Your success in your job or vocation? 0-10 iii) Your energy and vitality level? 0-10 iv) Your nutrition, food choices and weight? 0-10 v) Your acvivity? Fitness, Flexibility and Strength? 0-10 vi) Sleep - Restorative & Restful - getting close to 8 hours/night? 0-10 vii) Relationships - intimacy? 0-10 viii) Relationships with family and friends 0-10 ix) Community … [Read more...]