What is the “it” you may be asking? Well, “it” is whatever you think “it” should be.
The “it” may be happiness, love, fulfillment, peace and vitality. If “it” is possible for others why is “it” not possible for you, too? Socrates said that “An unexamined life isn’t worth living.” Well I am unsure that that is fully true, as I’ve found there are times when I haven’t examined my own life for a while…but eventually I do get back to examining it.
So when should we examine our lives?
Well, ideally on a regular basis, and this is the significance of making time to experience “ourselves”. Just be with what is. Check-in with what we love and see if we’re on-course, or in need of direction and clarity.
And, that thinking doesn’t usually help our self-esteem.
Try something I learned from Jack Canfield, modified from the bragging exercise: Take a sheet of paper and divide into columns 0-5, 6-10, 11-15, 16-20, 20-30, 30-40 and so on.
Now fill each page from top to bottom on your achievements at each age: Your successes, what you accomplished, or how you made a difference in someone’s life.
0-5 learned how to kick a ball, learned letter of the alphabet, tied shoes
6-10 made it out of grade 1, threw a ball overhand, swimming and diving
11-15 bronze medallion, out of grade 8, could play piano, high school speech
16-20 drivers licence, first job, worked with an amazing autistic child for one summer
Once you are done filling up each page, read it out to yourself. And, when done, declare to the universe (or in my case to my dog – who always listens): I am unique, I am worth “it.”